About 4 or 5 years ago, my grandmother bought me a small African Violet plant for Mother's Day. I was appreciative, as I had never had any plant in my life, except for rose bushes. However, I wasn't sure how I would do with keeping this plant alive.
I did quite well, indeed.
Within a year, I had to re-pot that little plant TWICE and soon after was told I should separate the plant to make a few smaller plants. Well, how skeptical was I about that? Very. But it worked. I separated the plant and I gave one to a good friend of mine (who, by the way, still has hers and it is very large).
Within another year, I had to re-pot and separate again.
Several years later, I have 5 beautiful African Violet plants.
How did I do this? Do I have a "green thumb?". Hm...well, the answer is simple.
I went "against the grain".
When I first got this little plant, I was told not to leave the plant in direct sunlight, not to water from the top. Guess what? I have mine sitting on my kitchen windowsill in direct sunlight for most of the day and I water from the top. And they thrive. I do rotate them throughout the day so the leaves don't burn and I'm careful not to let the water touch the leaves. But what I've been doing goes against what "they" say.
Also - my grandma gave me her African Violet plant to "revive", as somehow she had killed it. I brought it back to life and it is gorgeous.
So my advice to you? If "they" tell you to do certain things with plants and it doesn't seem to be working? Do the opposite (well, unless that involves never watering them...don't do that). Go against the grain.
I did, and I'm a happy woman.